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On the one hand, this might help fence sitters that are like “there’s no content there”.
On the other, I just don’t personally care for a stream of random images like Instagram et al do.
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I dunno man. I’ve had a lot of conversations with players that go like “do you think your character is the first to come up with this hijink? If it works, why doesn’t the entire setting revolve about this infinite damage trick you’re trying to sell me?”
Like, if it was as easy as casting Charm Person on the king to become the new ruler, other people would already be doing that. Therefore, there must be reasons why it doesn’t work.
Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world
My parents are difficult. Not the worst people and not monsters, but at many times unpleasant.
Plus it was a house in the suburbs. Not ideal for socializing or culture.
And lastly, living with parents in the suburbs would be huge negatives for dating.
Technology“Top-down mandates to use large language models are crazy,” one employee told Wired. “If the tool were good, we’d all just use it.”
Yep.
Management is often out of touch and full of shit
Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world
I don’t like to think of people as immutably good or bad, but I get what you meant.
There’s a bunch of factors.
- are they honest?
- are they kind?
- do they care about things other than themselves?
- do they try to make the world better?
So, someone who lies, is cruel, doesn’t care about anyone else, and leaves the world a mess is being a pretty bad person.
Someone who just keeps their head down, goes to work, and is polite to people they meet is kind of middling.
BestOfLemmyThe Oatmeal did a comic worth reading about this: https://theoatmeal.com/comics/believe
Some people are really loathe to do any self reflection or assessment. I gather their sense of self and worth is very fragile, and looking too hard might make it collapse.
Like, some people you could say “Eating meat is bad for these reasons” and they’ll just lash out. Not enough emotional HP to tank the hit.
Right. Cognitive dissonance. We all suffer it sometimes. I guess it takes uncommon courage and clarity to work through it. Most people would rather do the least effort to preserve their sense of being a good person.
Being sexist is bad
They are good
They don’t like this show because it has a woman lead
That’s sexist
But they’re good
Can’t change “sexism is bad”. Can’t change “they are good”. Only thing left to change is the reason they don’t like the show. Easy-peasy.
EuropeWhy aren’t the pro-brexit people being shamed? Stripped of their wealth and made to spend the rest of their miserable lives doing community service?
if you tell people that certain opinions are not allowed to be expressed, then they will tell you another reason they dont like the show. That is what happens. If you want the actual reason, you have to allow it to appear.
This is interesting. I feel like people are allowed to say “I don’t think women should lead”. They just don’t like the consequences of having that opinion. They want to say something cruel or afactual without anyone uninviting them from parties.
Many fans are seeing this star trek as being a vehicle for removing masculinity from the show,
If that’s true, it’s another example of conservatives having atrocious media literacy. There’s ample masculinity in the show. Perhaps they’re upset that it’s not exclusively the kind they want to see. Conservatives are not known for enjoying other perspectives and new takes.
Which I guess is your first point again. They have unwelcome beliefs so they’ll contort them into something they feel has less consequences. That’s easier than admitting maybe they’re wrong or their beliefs are bad.
Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world
This was a favorite for a long time, by the high water marks: https://thehighwatermarks.bandcamp.com/track/suicide
It feels like suicide or something worse
I’ve got this curse on me
It seems I only dream about the things
that shouldn’t come to be
always I try to find a way it feels
it seems to real to me
I just can’t let it go
I’ll let you know
Just what it means to me
As days go past and it all moves too fast
And I won’t think about it
And when I do it all comes back to you
And I don’t want to change that
Markdown fornatting is really tedious to do on the phone so I’m not going to fix that more.
But the song sounds upbeat, but it’s lyrics are a sad loop they want to break and also don’t want to.
I feel like online discourse about media is spoiled by loud fringes. There’s a distressing amount of people who don’t like women, queer folks, minorities, etc. They won’t say that’s why they don’t like a show. Some of them might not even realize. They just feel unconsciously uncomfortable when there’s a woman in charge or two men holding hands, and they reach for a more socially acceptable reason to reject it.
There was discussion about what the NYC subway announcements should say instead of “ladies and gentlemen”.
My vote was “listen up you little shits, [this train is going express until canal Street or whatever]”
I think they went with “everyone”, however.
People TwitterDepends on the app. Some let you see all versions, I think.
Comic Strips@lemmy.world
Yeah, I was going to say I saw almost this exact joke recently. That was the other one I saw.
Editing is a power not all people should be trusted with.
You all know at least one person (or are the person) who would text a yes/no like “Did you see Dave today?” and then when you write “yeah” edit their message to “Can I borrow your car?” or something you wouldn’t have said yes to.
It’s really hard to get people to suffer mild inconvenience when they don’t emotionally connect with the benefits.
Most of facebook’s evils are remote and impersonal. Seeing your cousin’s baby photos is real and at hand.
Sci-Fi RPGsWhy are each of your lines wrapped in ellipsis?
…what many anti-fifth-edition positions miss is that it’s not about learning a new system, it’s about compatibility across a vast ecosystem of disparate settings and campaigns…
I don’t think 5e is especially compatible with disparate settings and campaigns. It’s not an actually generic system like Fate or GURPS. It’s got underbaked or entirely missing whole RPG subsystems and mechanics (eg: social conflict, succeed-at-a-cost, metagame currency). It’s highly opinionated in other regards- hit points, class and level, resting. You can hammer the peg into the hole, but you could do that with anything.
It’s not a good system for modeling anything outside heroic fantasy.
It’s certainly a popular system, but many things are popular without being good. But, if your top priority is going where people are, by all means stick to D&D 5e, reddit, facebook, etc.
Programmer HumorSometimes I still see job postings that are like “MUST KNOW OBJECT ORIENTED PROGRAMMING” and I’m wondering who in 2026 isn’t at least passably familiar with it.
But then again I also see job posts that are like “must know Java or JavaScript”
I’m just going to move on
That’s my point. They’re doing a self-sabotage. Some of them will then complain that they’re not getting good matches and messages, but a big factor is they’re not giving potential good matches anything to work with.
I don’t really have a lot of empathy for people who don’t want to learn a new rule system.
First off, most of those people barely know 5e to begin with. You could swap them into another system and they’d probably perform about as well.
Aside from that, maybe they don’t mean to sound anti-intellectual, but they kind of do. It’s okay to read and learn new things. I’ve had potential players put up more of a fight than it would’ve taken to just read the thing.
Related, I think there’s like a literacy crisis. Many people don’t seem to read or think great.
So many people see the prompt “what I’m looking for” and write “my keys”.
A. That’s not a terribly funny joke. It’s fine, but not great.
B. It’s not original.
C. You are wasting valuable space. Now the other person has a little less information to make a good opening message. Do you really want that many people messaging you about your keys? Really? Why are you setting yourself up for unhappy outcomes?
Most people don’t think very hard about this, and hope it’ll just work out.
Meetup.com ? They’re still around.
One problem is users are selfish idiots. They won’t go somewhere that doesn’t already have a lot of users. They don’t care that going there now moves it closer to having a lot of users, so in a few months it’ll be good and vibrant. Most people can’t even think an hour ahead.
Another problem is that there are many scammers and bad actors. You need to deal with them, and convince your real users that the scammers are dealt with.
Lastly, in this capitalist hellscape everything is expensive. How are you going to run a big service that’s got low latency and high quality?
Yeah, it can be hard, but many things worth doing are hard. If you start with the bare minimum, the other person’s first impression of you is that you half-assed it. Would you be extra interested in someone who’s too half assed to even read your profile?
Put in the hard work. If you don’t have the energy, don’t use the apps. Half-assing it is just going to make you unhappy.
This isn’t true if their system punishes people for swiping “yes” on everyone. While I can’t be certain that’s the case, it seems very plausible it is. Swipe yes on everyone, your profile is down ranked, you don’t get as many good matches.
Additionally, tinder and hinge only allow you a limited number of yes swipes per day. If you blow them on the first ten profiles, you’re going to have worse results than if you spend a little longer looking at profiles.
Furthermore, on hinge, you can send a message with your like. Your chances of having a conversation and date go way down without a good message.
Thinking about my friend group, about half the people met their long term partners on dating apps. The other half is a mix of work and large social groups (eg: people who all go to certain kinds of music festivals)
I guess it varies by age and region.
https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2020/08/20/key-takeaways-on-americans-views-of-and-experiences-with-dating-and-relationships/
Some other sources I’m seeing say it’s as high as 60% of couples met online.
This isn’t especially true. Maybe Feeld and Tinder are less “serious”, but the idea of dating apps is mainstream enough that you find all sorts of people and goals.
The capitalism and for-profit nature does make them all kind of suck, though
The top of the funnel I could see an argument for not putting a lot of thought in. You’re just trying to get a pool of potential matches. (The apps are cruel for making you pay for this and not just giving you the list up front)
But once you do have a match, you have to put in some effort to stand out. A lot of people get a match and all they write is “hey”, and then they go right into the trash. Why would I engage with someone who just wrote “hey” when I could instead talk to someone who read my profile and said something personalized?
Also swiping yes on everyone might do strange things to their recommendation algorithm. Unfortunately that’s a black box, but I wouldn’t be surprised if that puts you in some sort of chum bucket shadow ban situation.
And also, yeah, making you pay for basic filters is a trashy design. Match group should be broken up.
Most of the apps are trashy and don’t optimize for good matches.
At the same time, many users half-ass using them, or deploy a variety of self-sabotage. (No, it’s not that you’re not tall or hot or whatever. It’s more likely your impersonal message didn’t warrant a response)
These two facts together mean a lot of people have truly bad outcomes.
No you weren’t. Not by anyone credible, anyway.
Cool. Been on Pop!_os for a year or so. Not memorable issues. Plays games fine.
Microsoft should be broken up. Even if they walk back some of their AI slop, they’re too big. They don’t fail like they should for releasing a bad product.
I don’t think anyone will be held to account, so no one who needs to learn anything will. The same decision makers who took us down this path will keep being decision makers.
Stupid, selfish, people.
Maybe this could also go in c/fuckcars
In absolute time spent, driving 20mph instead of 45mph for a few minutes is rather small. But people lose their mind, and don’t care if it means putting kids in danger. People don’t think like that.
I think the problem isn’t so much the signage and limits as it is we built roads that encourage driving unsafe speeds. That and we built a world where everyone driving their own private vehicle is normal, and often the only practical option. But changing all of that is a lot harder than lowering speed limits.
This joke is why I will say to DMs getting railroad-y, “are you sure you wouldn’t rather write a book?”
Well, we were literally walking in Manhattan when it came up, and couldn’t take the euclidean straight path. We could only walk on the grid of streets.
(This is setting aside factors like waiting to cross, or a busier street)
I’m the kind of guy who will look stuff up. I think it’s really important to admit when you’re wrong and the other person was right. Don’t move goal posts or claim you misunderstood. Just own it.
Like I was having a debate with my partner about if it was faster to go all the way up and over, or make a lot of turn-right then turn-left. I thought the ladder was faster because it approximates a straight line. She was like no that’s crazy. Eventually I found that’s called Manhattan distance and she was right, and I fully admitted defeat.
I’m ready for that style of language to be passé. But probably the next slang will also be unpleasant.
As others have said, working from home has many benefits
The commute alone is pretty big. If your commute is like an hour, that’s changing your salary from like $x / 10 hours to $x / 8 hours. That’s a big bump. If your daily pay was $1000, that’s like going from $100/hour to $125/hour.
No disagreement here.
I realized when reading one of the other comments that my similarly sized complaint is it creates a lot of potential for problems at the game level as well as narrative when people make their characters in isolation. I kind of assumed that comes packaged with “and you all meet in a tavern”.
Like, everyone makes a fighter and shows up to session 1. The dm’s going to have a head scratcher thinking about balance, and some players might be annoyed they don’t really have a niche of their own. A weird party like that can work, but it’ll be a happier experience if folks talk about it ahead of time.